'The most common question I get is some variation on 'am I normal?'' says Cyndi Darnell
, a sex and relationship therapist based in New York City. 'Sex is under-taught, so most of us gleaned what we know from well-meaning friends and pop culture. As a result, we're left to fill in the blanks ourselves and can feel isolated. People feel afraid to ask for help or worse still, do not know who to ask!' Darnell wants to reassure you: Whether a person is wondering about their biology (e.g. the size, shape, placement, scent, etc. of body parts), their sexual abilities, or the kinds of activities they enjoy, 'someone else out there has had the exact same feeling.' Sex therapist Megan Fleming, PhD
wholeheartedly agrees and adds, 'There is such a range of sexual interests and behaviors that no matter how 'strange' or uncommon, they are 'normal' as long as it's consensual and pleasurable for both partners.'